And why it’s Important to Consider Using it More

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I bring my son to school, “Hey Buddy, how are you?”
A teacher says to a child: “Buddy, come here please”
A child, playing on the playground hurts himself: “Buddy are you okay?”
You and your child meet up with your friend and they say hi to your child: “Hey Buddy!”

Now, these are just a few instances in what I imagine are countless examples. Let me clarify that in each of the above lines not one of those children’s names is Buddy.

Why Does This Matter?

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any…

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Are you dizzy from information overload with all of the how-tos, hacks, recipes, and life-changing formulas?

10 Steps to Lose 10lbs in Two Weeks

3 Strategies to Find Your Dream Job

7 Ways to a Better Relationship

5 Ways to improve this or that

You get the picture. The number of articles you can find with headlines like these seems endless.


Why is there such a multitude of ways for this and for that? That is because people have tried different methods and they are simply sharing what has worked for them.

Let’s look into two of the keywords…

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We’re always waiting for the end.

Where did we go wrong? Can we blame Friday? Did it start with TGIF: Thank God It’s Friday? The truth is it’s not just Friday we’re waiting for.

I was reminded of this recently by my five-year-old son. Having been in school since September, he’s already recognized the program the rest of the teen and adult population are on: how many more days until Friday?

Then, once he learns to tell the time, it won’t just be Friday he’s looking forward to; it will be the time school ends each day. At that point…

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Ahhhh, the easy life. Wouldn’t it be great? Isn’t it our subconscious goal? Maybe even our conscious goal? To get to the end of the hard road so that we can coast through life.

Isn’t that why millions of us buy lottery tickets each week? We imagine that with millions in our pockets, life can become one big permanent vacation. We can live on a beach somewhere, sit back, drink, and tan and bask in the glory of the easy life. We might even imagine we have the perfect body, with the perfect partner, perfect children, and perfect weather. …

Hey Mike,

What a great perspective and tool to use for habits and tasks!

You hinted at the idea of preparation at the end. Could you add the idea of 'preparation drafting'? My one idea related to this has to do with running or really any type of exercise. Let's say you decide you want to get up early and get in a run or workout before work. Well, the night before you get all of your run/workout gear ready and laid out (including shoes) beside your bed so that you, as you said, link getting up to running/working out. The idea being that going to bed becomes synonymous with getting prepared for the morning activity as does waking up with the act of working out in the morning.

Thanks again!


I really enjoyed your article Bradon. You provided some insightful perspectives that broadened my own, so thank you. I like the idea of art being the first step. It does have incredible value and ability to bring people together.

A thought I'd like to add is the importance of creativity as an essential aspect of art. I feel as though a large percentage of the population is disconnected from art as they are disconnected from their own creativity. We don't see a way forward in our own lives and feel trapped by life's routines. By connecting to one's creativity and curiosity, a path for life can open up to us along with a connection to something more in life.

Art is able bring together people because it speaks to the underlying connection of what is deeply shared between individuals.

Thanks again!

Hi Ikhya,

Thanks for sharing your insight into the issue of people pleasing. The ideas you presented makes me think about one important thing people either don't do enough or don't do it at all. It's something that we may not have even learned. The importance of setting boundaries.

If we're unsure about how to act in situations or aren't happy how we did act in situations then it might be helpful to take a pen and a piece of paper and reflect about the situation and what we didn't really appreciate about it.

We need to decide what we're…

Hey Slytherin,

I enjoyed reading your perspective and it does relate to things I've reflected on with respect to my own parents.

I would say that some take advantage of their role (maybe and probably without even knowing it) in believing parenting comes with a hierarchical role. In doing so, they create an imbalance in the parent-child relationship. Recovering from this I think is difficult unless a parent is able to reflect on and see the imbalance they've created.

I think parent-child relationships need to be made on equal ground where both the parent and the child have equal value…

Hey Benjamin,

Great perspective. We certainly do take a reactive approach to issues in society. It's great to have forums such as HeartSupport to help people. But absolutely the solution to mental health issues needs to be a proactive one where people are working on their mental fitness as they would their physical fitness.


Great article. Thanks for sharing your insights. So many great little tidbits that I highlighted in this. The only real solution to overthinking is actually to get out of your head and into your body, meaning get your body moving. Do something about what you're thinking about. If you can do that then you'll have new thoughts to think about and new challenges to face instead of having your head spin in circles about the same problems.

Mike Orsini

Life’s about exploring what you’re capable of, then going further. @StickToYourCore

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